When I tell people that my wedding is on the other side of the country, the first question they always ask is, “How the !!?# did you plan from here?” And I’m not gonna say it was easy, but here are a few things I did that made the process of planning from afar a whole lot easier…
1 // Get a coordinator. Oh my lord get a coordinator. You don’t have to go all the way, you can just get a day of, but having someone on the ground will make a world of difference. A coordinator can answer questions and provide recommendations for anything from the most kickass band to the place you want to have your dress steamed when you get into town. Most importantly, just knowing you have that person backing you up will relieve a boatload of stress.
2 // Research, research, research. If you can, use yelp. And scour the vendor guides of your favorite blogs like a crazy person. I’m telling you, I can still rattle off who is and is not included in Style Me Pretty’s Little Black Book… and whether they also appear on Green Wedding Shoes and Once Wed. It’s a sickness.
3 // Check out the average wedding cost where you’re headed… is it the highest in the country? The lowest? The truth might not change your mind, but it’s a good thing to know going in.
4 // Use Skype. There is literally nothing better for planning from out of town. You can still meet every one of your vendors face to face.
5 // If you can, take one trip there before the wedding. Hopefully you already know enough about the venue so that you don’t need to go early on in planning (if you don’t, I really recommend two trips. Don’t book a venue sight unseen… you never know what little surprises might pop up, and you don’t want to discover them after it’s too late).
On your main trip, try your food, cake, meet with your coordinator and officiant and, if you have time, get your engagement shots taken. Rentals, lights, and little details are easy to book from afar.
6 // Relax. This is a destination wedding, and I imagine that one of the reasons you chose this whole deal is that the place is beautiful… right? So here’s the thing. That beautiful place? It counts as big fat chunk of your decor. You might not be able to carry or ship quite as many little details as you’d like, but even with the most minimal personalization, your location will shine – and I’m pretty sure it will beat a 50′ long crepe paper garland any day of the week.
Trust that your wedding will be beautiful and special and yours.
And if there is any little piece of you that doubts me, watch this.
Photo: Jose Villa
Thank you guys so much for all of your awesome book recommendations yesterday, I can’t wait to dive in! Actually I’m kind of dying, I wish I had the time to start now.
I get all sorts of wedding submissions… big parties, small parties, venues where everything is pre-planned, elopements that were planned in 3 days… there’s no one formula for a beautiful wedding.
But in the end, what really gets me are the emotions. The bride dancing with her father… the first time the groom sees his bride… the pure joy on each and every person’s face. That’s the best part…
Here’s the story straight from the bride…
Keith and I met through a sorority sister at UCF, who somehow knew “we were meant to be” and that we were perfect for each other. And sure enough we are. Keith and I love being outside, boating, beaching it up, and other fun things. We dated long distance for a while which was hard, but we some how managed to make it this far.
He proposed simply on April 9th in my bedroom. I think he tried to get my little beagle Lucy involved somehow but she wasn’t cooperating with him. Aka, I found him under the bed trying to get her to come out moments before the proposal.
I will move to wellington fl once I graduate. We are pretty simple people and love to have fun.
Photographer: Root Photography / Venue: Longboat Key Club
One month to go, and we’re down to the details… but let me tell you, there are details to be had!
From menus to table lists to just plain mailing stuff to the west coast (extra work for the destination bride) I’m pretty sure our weekends from here on out are done.*
There are the details on the surface, and the details underneath… and right now my head is reeling trying to keep up with them all.
But really, in the end, aren’t the details half the fun?
And how about this for some (moderately disturbed) motivation? A little old, but really, if I could be the most organized person on earth I would die happy.**
*Okay actually we made pretty good use of this particular weekend (sorry for the terrible shot of the back of the camera… I mentioned we’ve been busy right?).
**I’d like to dedicate this post to Pinterest and the terribly dated but absolutely fantastic discoveries I make on you nearly every day… clearly we’ve been spending a little too much time together.
Photo: Backstage at Rodarte Fall 2012 Ready to Wear via The Doppelganger
Okay, call me cliché but I really do love the fall. It’s sweater season (in theory… in reality it’s been 80 all week, but go with me here) the apples are at their best, the leaves are turning and the holidays are about to begin.
Fall is a time for savoring rich flavors, rich experiences, and gorgeous rich colors like the ones above.